Day 236 - A Year of Spiritual Awakening - Sex, as a Tantra...

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Lesson 236: Sex, as a trantra...

“Sex, as tantra, has been misunderstood by many of you. It is not technique or position, or even breathing. It is allowing yourself to experience Oneness, with another. This can happen in so many ways.”

— Sara Wiseman

Today we are to think about sex being complete for us. Is there something you look for in sex that isn’t about Oneness? What is it?

As I said in yesterday’s post, I don’t know that I have experienced true connection in sex. I think it can be a beautiful experience given that it’s with the right person and it allows you to expand with that person.

I think my own experiences there have been times of passion and lust. I personally have felt used by others and felt physically ill after sex because I think I shouldn’t have given myself away so easily. I think as I’m on this spiritual path, I definitely want someone I can have true connection with. From here, sex allows to have that Oneness with that person.

FYI I am no knocking anyone who has sex for pure enjoyment, fun or passion. Based on these lessons, I’m seeing that it can be so much more – connection, Oneness, energy combined. We should all have the experience of One if we are open to it. I believe it would take connection to another level of understanding.

Day 20 - A Year of Spiritual Awakening - True tantra is possible...

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Lesson 20: True tantra is possible...

“Lesson 20: True tantra is about connection, not sexuality or romance.True tantra is possible whether a relationship is long or short, sanctioned or unsanctioned, proper or improper. The karmic crossing is what determines tantra; not society. ”

— Sara Wiseman

I am to think about my true tantra connections and what change or transformation that has brought about. Spending time last night with my soul sister Joanna, we were talking about how we changed each other’s lives. It’s always a case of maybe not expressing it enough or showing it, but you never know how much you can inspire someone, from simple words or actions you take. Joanna always inspires me with words along the way which actually helps me take on better perspective and understanding. I remember this one time I was angry at my mother for something she had said, and Jo responded with something along the lines of “well you’ve got to remember your mum is human too, has feelings just like you and makes mistakes”. Something I didn’t really consider because we’re so quick to judge our parents and resent them for stupid shit. Those words really resonated with me and changed the way I maintained my relationship with my mum. A lot more understanding was gained and I didn’t hold my mother in the light of how she should act as a parent. My mum is her own person with her own morals, values and feelings and even though I may not agree with them, I have to remember that she is like any other person in this world, where we still need to hold respect and remember they have the right to think and feel however they want.

I think all my friendships are true tantra. If true tantra is what has transformed me, then I have to reference all the people who have changed me from my previous blog post on Day 10: Karmic crossings are always strong... Along the way those people have opened my eyes to something more. Most of those people live in Melbourne and made impact after I had moved here during my life changing event. Although I am not friends with some of those people, every one of them came into my life to teach me important life lessons. The only person I hadn’t listed on there is my ex boyfriend. I did have a tantra connection that taught me a lot of the person I didn’t want to be under someone’s control, and through the good times and the bad, I did value our time together and learned a lot about myself in the process. Without that major romance in my life, I wouldn’t be the person I am today. I needed that adversity to grow.

I couldn’t imagine not having tantric connections. I think everyone has value of teaching you something even if they aren’t to remain in your life forever. I guess that’s the beauty of connection, sometimes they are there forever once created, sometimes they are just there to serve a purpose before you move forward.

Day 19 - A Year of Spiritual Awakening - Romantic Love

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Lesson 19: Romantic love is one of the greatest delights...

“Lesson 19: Romantic love is one of the greatest delights of this lifetime. Those who experience the tantra of Divine union with another know God in this act; each becomes God at a level of transcendence, and the union also becomes God.”

— Sara Wiseman

First off, I do not believe in God so I can only put this lesson in the context of what I believe, that being the Universe, the Universe being Divine, the Universe encompassing us all. I have had one major romantic love in my life, in which, I cannot say that I have experienced the tantra of the Divine. I hope that you aren’t reading this, thinking tantric sex as this Divine union, although that act can be a part of it. I understand tantra to be the ultimate enlightenment involving collective consciousness, spiritual transcendence, inner peace, soul vibration as well as all that intersects and binds us together. It’s a level of spirituality that seeks from within, to expand one’s self through the connection to the Divine, to the point that you too, can become the Divine. Everyone has their own interpretation and definition so really, I think if you get the gist of what tantra is trying to teach, it evolves your definition.

I cannot say that I experienced anything close to the Divine in this romantic union that I’ve had. I am still learning on my spiritual path, so for me, I feel like I will reach that level of transcendence when I fully achieve tantra. I can see how any sort of romantic relationship/union can transcend physical and emotional connection, though I feel like I haven’t reached this stage. The only relationship that I feel may transcend time and space is that I have with my mother. I have not had the pleasure of reaching any sort of level with another individual person, who would be my partner, to transcend in this way. I hadn’t even really thought about it in this way until this exercise. Quite interesting and makes you think more about you as an individual, what you want out of life, but also the type of connection you want to have with the person you want to spend the rest of your days with.