For some, you spend your whole life not truly appreciating your parents. My mother became a single mum when I was 9, and when I was growing up, there were some points when I just did not understand the time, dedication and hard work my mum would have struggled through. When you start becoming an adult yourself, it's hard to imagine what life would be like with 2 kids in your 20s trying your hardest to keep things together. I'm now in my 30s, kid-less and have no grasp of the realities of what my mum had to face.
Sometimes I look at my life and think, "WHAT AM I EVEN DOING?" and my mum at my age worked full time supporting a 10 year old and 8 year old. What a feat! It's hard to try and not be selfish but as I reflect, I honestly love my mum for everything she's done - at times me not agreeing with her decisions but everything was to help build the person I am today.
I wanted to share love for my mum as she finally gets to be happy. I recently went back to Perth to see her get married to a great man that I had never met. It was a fast moving relationship and of course I had ill feelings towards this. She met a man and wanted to get married straight away. As her daughter, an automatic reaction is - why the rush? I have no faith in religion, nor most people, and therefore could only place my distrust in this man. When I met him and got to know my mum's partner, I thought about how I wished that this man was my father from the beginning. I don't have the best relationship with my own father (one day I hope to fix), but my mum's husband possessed all the qualities of a good man and person. What really sold it, was the unconditional love my niece has for this man, and it really sealed the deal. If a child can love someone with the purest of intentions, then that meant I could too.
When I think about the times we were financially struggling, the tears through my parent's divorce and all the hard times as a family, I can sincerely say that my mum deserves to be happy. I am happy that she can finally share her love and live life filled with grand affection and faith. Let us all trust and believe that Love conquers all and everyone will have their time come.